Love is not only an action word but it is a foundational choice in a relationship between a husband and a wife. Because it is a choice that should be made very early in the relationship, it should be attached to an unconditional state of mind. In other words it should have no limits according to 1 Corinthians 13:7. Bearing all things, believing all things, always hopeful and enduring all things. If these rules are followed then it would make sense that our motive to love should come from a pure place. We choose to love because we simply want to love. This love choice does not avail itself to manipulation.
So if you are in the relationship attempting to fix your partner by way of manipulative love it begs to question whether you are really loving at all. This action is purely selfish. Hopefully before you enter the union you would be honest with yourself and ask if you can truly love this person just the way they are or are you looking to love their potential. This can become a very frustrating way to live. You can not be settled in the relationship if you are always maneuvering your spouse to become your perfect product of love.
If you are married or deeply involved in a relationship in which you believe your love will “fix” your partner please check your mirror. If you are being true to yourself and taking an honest assessment of the cracks that may be in your heart you will see you may not be operating in love at all. It”s never to late to repent and genuinely seek God for answers concerning heart. We often think we are doing what is right but many times it is right for you but not for your spouse. Jeremiah 17:9 states “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?
MzLiz
~She speaks; She writes ~ 